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5 Essential Considerations During Your Surrogate Match Meeting

Bringing a child into the world through surrogacy is a significant decision that involves careful consideration and planning. One of the milestone steps in this journey is the Surrogate Match Meeting. This meeting serves as an opportunity for Intended Parents and potential Surrogates to get to know each other better and determine if they are a good fit for each other. To make the most of this important encounter, here are five key things to consider:

1. Compatibility and Connection: Building a strong rapport with your surrogate is essential for a successful surrogacy journey. During the match meeting, ACRC will facilitate the conversation topics, but pay attention to how well you communicate with each other and whether you share similar values, beliefs, and expectations regarding the surrogacy process. Feeling comfortable and connected with your surrogate can help foster trust and a positive relationship throughout the journey.

2. Medical Considerations: Although the Match Meeting is not the space to discuss the surrogate's entire medical history (these will be reviewed with your doctor separately), previous pregnancy experiences, and any potential risks or concerns, will be touched upon. 

3. Support System and Communication: Surrogacy can be an emotionally and physically demanding journey for both Intended Parents and Surrogates. Assessing the surrogate's support system and communication preferences during the match meeting can provide insight into how she will navigate challenges and seek support throughout the process. Open and honest communication is key to addressing concerns, sharing updates, and building a supportive partnership.

4. Expectations and Boundaries: Clearly defining expectations and boundaries is crucial for establishing a respectful and mutually beneficial relationship between Intended Parents and Surrogates. ACR will use a portion of the Match Meeting time as an opportunity to discuss each party's preferences, limitations, and desired level of involvement throughout the surrogacy journey. Establishing boundaries early on can help prevent misunderstandings and conflicts down the road.

5. Emotional Connection and Trust: Surrogacy is a deeply personal and emotional experience for all involved parties. Building a foundation of trust and understanding during the match meeting is essential for fostering a positive and supportive relationship throughout the journey. Take the time to share your hopes, fears, and aspirations with each other, and be receptive to the surrogate's feelings and concerns. Developing an emotional connection based on empathy, respect, and trust can contribute to a smoother and more fulfilling surrogacy experience for everyone involved.

The Match Meeting is a pivotal step in the surrogacy journey that requires careful consideration and communication. By having an established agency guide them through this milestone and the entirety of the journey, Intended Parents and Surrogates can lay the groundwork for a successful and rewarding partnership. Remember that every surrogacy journey is unique, and we are here to help you find the right match!

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