“How Can You Give the Baby Away?” – A Surrogate’s Truth

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The moment I placed the baby into their parents’ arms, my heart wasn’t breaking; it was overflowing.

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One of the questions I hear most often when I tell people I’ve been a surrogate mother is:

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“How could you carry a baby for nine months and then just give them away?”

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I understand where that comes from. On the surface, it probably does sound like it would be heartbreaking. But living through the surrogacy journey feels completely different than what most people imagine.

From the very first conversation I had about becoming a surrogate, I knew this baby was not mine. I wasn’t entering into the surrogacy process to add another child to my family. My role was something very special, but very DIFFERENT.

"I was creating a safe place for someone else’s baby to grow until their intended parents were finally able to hold them."

👉 If you’re curious about becoming a surrogate and want to hear from someone who’s been through the journey, you can schedule a free consultation with one of our intake managers at ACRC Global. We are here to answer your questions, share our experiences, and support you every step of the way.

During pregnancy, my bond was never about preparing to be “mom” again. It was about care. Every doctor’s appointment, every healthy meal, every time I felt a kick—I reminded myself, this is their baby, their dream, their miracle. I was simply the one blessed to help bring that dream to life.

People expect the hardest part to be the delivery and “giving the baby away.” But for me, that was the best part. I had the opportunity to have my intended parent accompany me at delivery. Handing the baby to their parents wasn’t a moment of sadness; it was the moment I had been waiting for all along. Watching their faces light up as they held their child for the very first time is a memory I will cherish forever. My heart wasn’t breaking; it was overflowing.

Surrogacy isn’t about loss. It’s about love. It’s about helping create a family where there wasn’t one before. And for me, being a part of that story has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. It doesn’t feel like giving a baby away—it feels like witnessing the most beautiful hello ❤️.

When I look back on my surrogacy journey, the word that comes to mind is beautiful. It wasn’t always easy; there were appointments, medications, and the normal ups and downs of pregnancy, but every step had a purpose that made it so worth it. I never imagined it would lead me to the work I do today. At the time, I was focused on the heart of the experience, helping a family who couldn’t have a child on their own. I learned so much about myself, about resilience, and about the incredible bond that can form when intended parents support you on this amazing journey.

Now, as an intake manager at a surrogacy agency, I get to sit on the other side of the journey. I’m the first point of contact for women who are curious, excited, or even nervous about how to become a surrogate themselves. It’s a role I don’t take lightly, because I’ve been in their shoes. I know what it feels like to wonder: Am I ready for this? Will I be a good surrogate? What will it really be like to give this gift?

My surrogate experience was beautiful because it wasn’t just about me. It was about love, hope, and creating a miracle. And that is something I will carry with me for the rest of my life. ✨