What Intended Parents Wish They Knew Before Starting Surrogacy
- ACRC Global
- Dec 2
- 4 min read
Starting the surrogacy journey is one of the most meaningful steps a family can take. Many Intended Parents tell us that they wish they had understood certain parts of the process earlier, especially when it comes to timelines, expectations, communication, and emotional readiness. At ACRC Surrogacy, we guide families through every stage with clarity and compassion. This article brings together the most common insights shared by Intended Parents to help you enter your journey with confidence.
Surrogacy Is a Journey, Not a Single Event
Many families imagine surrogacy as a quick medical process, but it is truly a full emotional and logistical journey. It includes matching, legal steps, medical screening, embryo transfer, and ongoing support throughout pregnancy.
Key insight:
Intended Parents often wish they understood from the beginning that surrogacy unfolds over several months, and each stage has its own rhythm.
Helpful resource:
American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM): https://www.asrm.org/
The Matching Stage Is More Personal Than Expected
Matching is not only about medical criteria. It is about shared values, communication styles, lifestyle preferences, and expectations for the relationship during and after pregnancy.
At ACRC Surrogacy, our coordinators take time to understand both the Intended Parents and the Surrogate. This leads to stronger, more natural matches and positive long term relationships.
Key insight:
Many Intended Parents wish they knew that a great match feels like connecting with someone who genuinely supports their family goals.
The Surrogate Screening Process Brings Peace of Mind
New families sometimes feel nervous about entrusting someone else with pregnancy. What they often discover is that reputable agencies follow extremely detailed medical, psychological, and lifestyle screening.
At ACRC Surrogacy, every Surrogate completes a thorough review coordinated by medical professionals and our experienced staff. Intended Parents repeatedly share that understanding this early on would have eased many initial worries.
Helpful resource:
CDC Assisted Reproductive Technology Overview: https://www.cdc.gov/art/
Embryo Readiness Makes a Big Difference
Intended Parents who already have embryos ready for transfer often move through the process more smoothly. IVF, embryo creation, and genetic testing are separate from the surrogacy timeline, and many families wish they had begun that preparation earlier.
Through ACRC Global Doctor, families can compare IVF doctors and clinics to find the best fit for embryo creation before matching.
Helpful resource:
Communication Style Matters Throughout the Journey
One of the most common insights Intended Parents share is that clear communication creates trust and comfort. Before matching, it helps to think about:
How often you would like updates
What type of communication you prefer
How involved you hope to be during appointments and milestones
ACRC Surrogacy helps set expectations so everyone feels supported and connected.
Key insight:
Healthy communication leads to stronger relationships and a smoother experience for both the Surrogate and the Intended Parents.
Emotional Preparation Is Just as Important as Logistics
Surrogacy is hopeful and exciting, but it also involves patience and emotional investment. Many Intended Parents wish they had known:
Every journey has ups and downs
Support networks are valuable
It is normal to experience a mix of joy, anticipation, and nervousness
At ACRC Surrogacy, each family works closely with an experienced case manager and has access to ongoing guidance, support meetings, and educational resources.
Legal Protections Are Clear, Structured, and Designed for Both Sides
Before starting the process, Intended Parents often worry about legal complexities. In reality, surrogacy laws are well established in many states. ACRC Surrogacy works with legal professionals who specialize in reproductive law to create parentage documents and protect everyone involved.
Helpful resource:
Academy of Adoption and Assisted Reproduction Attorneys (AAAA): https://adoptionart.org/
Key insight:
Most Intended Parents later share that they felt significantly more confident once they understood how structured and secure the legal steps truly are.
Building a Strong Relationship With Your Surrogate Makes the Journey More Meaningful
Many Intended Parents cherish the connection they build with their Surrogate. A positive relationship often brings trust, comfort, and a shared sense of purpose.
You do not have to become best friends, but mutual respect and warmth can make the experience unforgettable for everyone involved.
Choosing the Right Agency Changes Everything
Intended Parents frequently say they wish they had known earlier how important an agency’s communication, transparency, and support structure would be. A dedicated and experienced agency ensures that:
Your timeline stays on track
Your Surrogate receives ongoing support
Every stage is clearly explained
You always know what to expect next
Families who choose ACRC Surrogacy receive guidance from a team that includes experienced Surrogates, coordinators, case managers, and specialists across multiple global offices.
Final Thoughts
Surrogacy is a life changing journey that brings families together through compassion and collaboration. By learning from the experiences of previous Intended Parents, you can begin with confidence, clarity, and a deeper understanding of what to expect.
ACRC Surrogacy is here to guide you through each stage with care. Whether you are just beginning to explore surrogacy or preparing to start the process, our team is ready to support your family every step of the way.
Book a free consultation today.
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